The Sound of Love | Engagement Portraits In Kent Connecticut

Have you ever wondered what love sounds like?

Is it a heartbeat? Is it a voice that is calming, familiar, soothes the wild seas of your soul? Is it the first whimpering cry a baby makes after the first breathes of air into our world? Does love sound like a song?

We know what love feels like. I’ve certainly tasted and smelled love (um, hello chocolate!). And I think we see love in a million different ways.

But the sound of love? I do wonder.

Mathew and Katie, I don’t think they wonder, I think they’ve heard the sound of love. And it all began with a local band.

She was invited to play in my band who had been looking for a singer for quite some time. The drummer discovered her at an open Mic and invited her to try out with us, he described her as “the full package”. She was hyped up so much that I was already in love her without seeing her face.

Then she came to the first rehearsal.

I was afraid, intimidated, and astonished. I thought the world of her as soon as I saw her face, and melted upon hearing her voice. But I knew I would never have a chance, as I was way out of her league. She was an Air Force veteran badass with a sleeve of tattoos and the voice of an angel. And I was in community college studying music to ensure that I was fully unemployable. I became incredibly nervous playing guitar in front of her, as I wanted to appear as perfect as possible in the presence of such an impressive woman. Our first show as a band was such a blast that she had decided to join the band for good. And that first gig was the beginning of our beautiful friendship.” 

Our band rehearsed several nights a week, and, on our days off, we often spent entire days together rehearsing, planning, building, and sharing meals. Mat played lead guitar in our band and was tasked with helping me practice and sharpen my guitar skills. I would get so nervous around him that when I made a mistake, I would cry! Mat has this ease about him; this calm and quiet demeanor. His presence was always so comforting and so reassuring, and he never even needed to use words to convey that feeling. Mat and I went together like peanut butter and jelly; we produced such effortless and beautiful music together, just the two of us. People could hear and see the romance between us as we sang duets together, giving each other googly eyes during our performances.   Falling in love with him was as easy as playing music with him!

Mat reminds me to take life one day at a time and to try to enjoy the present moment. He is surprisingly wise and grounded and when I am floating around in the stratosphere stressing about the entire world and future, he grabs me by my feet and pulls me back down to the ground. He is my grounding force, my rock, and my constant reminder to take life in, one breath at a time.”


Most people will tell you that relationships that start within a band usually crumble or cause the demise of the band. That was not the case with Mat and I. In fact, we went on to be a part of 2 more bands after that. We not only have this spark of romance between us, but we also have a solid friendship. We do everything together and have so much in common! Never in my life did I think I would find that person who enjoys Family Guy and South Park as much as I do! Mat and I never really have to work too hard at spending time together as we enjoy just about all of the same activities. We enjoy everything from going on walks, to cooking together, to taking in the sights and sounds of Disney. There has never been a time where would rather have been doing something else.


Katie and I were instantly drawn to each other, even though at first we were afraid to show it. I remember her flirting with me but I was so nervous and taken off my feet that I thought she was just trying to be nice to me, as I was a guitar player trying to be cool with glasses like Harry Potter. But one night, with the help of some liquid courage, I kissed her. And after that we were inseparable. I still continue to be so incredibly shocked that she liked me back, I was (and still am) the most blessed man on the planet.


Katie is what gets me out of bed, what motivates me to work harder, and most of all my best friend. I click with her like no one else. She gets me and I get her as though we’re always in each others heads. I enjoy everything more when I’m with her like an addictive drug. Whether its spending a Friday night at home watching movies, or going to a punk rock concert, Katie is always the one to bring more life into any experience. She makes everyone feel great about themselves and brings joy to those lucky enough to be in her presence. But what I love most about her is that she is on my side, and supports me through whatever it is I want to do. From playing music, to delivery driving, to business school, she is willing to walk any path with me. People say winning the lottery is impossible. But I’ve won every day she is in my life.


I grow to love Mat more and more each day. He fills my heart! My hope for our relationship is that we only grow stronger, become more unified, and continue to learn from each other each and every day. As partners, I hope we take on everything life throws our way with grace, compassion, and empathy. I pray that our love remains unconditional. I pray that our love endures and that we are partners in this life! I pray that our love becomes the kind of love written about in 1 Corinthians 13:1-7:

1If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.

4Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. 5It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.””

Keeping true to a love affair that started with making music together, Mat proposed to Katie by tucking the ring in her guitar case to surprise her. The surprise worked because she must of asked if it was real three times before remembering to say YES.

Katie is one of my three sisters and Mat is soon to be my brother in-law. As a sister, there is nothing else I want to see in this life than my siblings find love and a keystone partnership that they might find fulfillment of their wildest dreams in being able to cultivate a family of their own. I think the pinnacle to our happiness is found in our relationships. Jobs and careers come and go. Hobbies change with the seasons. Even bands break up. But family, it transcends seasons, the ages, lifetimes…ultimately trickling down to the roots of ancestral trees and stretched out to the furthest leaves. It is paramount to what it means to live and love.

These were such special photos for me to be able to take because she is my family. It doesn’t help that I have been dying for a sister (or all the sisters for that matter!) to get married and have more babies. I am excited and can’t wait for the wedding Mat and Katie are planning because I have no doubt it will be beautiful and chock full of the sounds of love.





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