A Parent’s Heart Forever Beating Outside His Chest | Fathers Day

Through the blur, I wondered if I was alone or if other parents felt the same way I did – that everything involving our children was painful in some way. The emotions, whether they were joy, sorrow, love or pride, were so deep and sharp that in the end they left you raw, exposed and yes, in pain. The human heart was not designed to beat outside the human body and yet, each child represented just that – a parent’s heart bared, beating forever outside its chest.
― Debra Ginsberg

A parent’s heart, beating forever out its chest. A very honest and accurate description of how it feels, I believe. It is very much a raw feeling, I feel so vulnerable and exposed with my daughter’s presence in the world – the fear of all the different things that could befall her is paralyzing.

I shared my favorite Mother Moments from weddings for Mother’s Day, I thought I’d be remiss not to share some of my favorite images with fathers from over the years for Father’s Day.

Without further adieu.

Chris pictured with his father and now father in law at the rehearsal dinner the night before his wedding.

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Adam’s father giving a warm hand squeeze to his mother moments before Adam’s bride came through the double doors of the sanctuary.

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One of my favorite things is when a father watches the expression of his daughter as he walks her to her groom, as Jenn’s dad did here.
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I try very hard with each wedding to be able to get the vantage point of view behind the officiant in order to see the parents and guests as a bride and groom exchange vows. Not always possible given location or rules of the officiant, but it is one of my utmost favorite shots when it does happen. [kelley elizabeth photography] New York & Connecticut Wedding Photographer-0201

One of the hardest things is the pressure felt to make sure to make strong, lasting portraits of parents and grandparents at the wedding, especially when you know one of them is battling an illness like cancer. I think I get more nervous about making sure I really capture the spirit and soul of a loved one in those happy moments, more than making sure I get a photo of the first kiss. Pictured below, right, is Chris’ parents. A moment that has always remained in my heart, Chris’ dad dancing with such a tender embrace of his mom who was valiantly battling cancer. I will never forget it. [kelley elizabeth photography] New York & Connecticut Wedding Photographer-1

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Lisa suggested a picture she wanted taken, one of her holding a photo of her parents on their wedding day. She and her family had such touching ways to honor each other on the day of her wedding. Lisa’s dad had “Lisa’s Wedding” engraved in his suit jacket collar as a surprise to her. [kelley elizabeth photography] New York & Connecticut Wedding Photographer-2945

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With Father’s Day approaching, I can’t help but think about Edyn’s wedding one day in the future and look forward to being able to watch Josh on that day when it comes. I am sure that day will leave me raw in new, not yet experienced ways.

K


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